Anxiety and your sense of control
Anxiety is often related to that feeling of losing control in one or more areas of your life. As a result of
this lack of control you start to feel helpless and struggle to find solutions to deal with your fears.
The more you fight to control your thoughts and worries the more anxious and worried you become.
What-ifs start to control your life and before you know it you have drastically changed your way of life to
stay safe, this normally includes creating boundaries as a coping mechanism. Your thoughts can seem and
feel very real and you start to imagine what if I lose control, what if I embarrass myself, what if I cannot
get home and feel safe.
Anxiety differs from person to person but the end result for the individual is the same, the overwhelming
feeling of helplessness. We have no control over the what-ifs and typically people become anxious about
Anxiety is not something you simply can snap out of. Advice such as just face your fears is meant
with best intentions, but as you try to face your fear you feel such terror that you end up backing out
and staying in your safe zone. Over a period of time you can start alienate yourself from social
gatherings, friends and family.
There are always things you can do to help you cope. The key thing to remember is you are not going
to die, the anxiety will pass and you will be fine.
At the time the feelings of fear are very real and the more you fight them the more intense they
seem, the battle with anxiety can be overwhelming especially when no one knows what you are
dealing with because you keep it hidden from the world.
Tools to Help You Cope With Anxiety
One of the most important things to remember about anxiety is that getting better actually
happens inside of you.
There are many ways to help you handle your anxiety but what will eventually help you
cure your anxiety is becoming aware of your thoughts and how they influence emotions.
The fear of anxiety creates anxiety. It sounds a little crazy, but those diagnosed with anxiety
and panic attacks tend to have a severe fear of anxiety and panic attacks which increases
heart rate and in turn triggers an episode of anxiety. Learning not to fear them is part of
Reducing the severity of your anxiety will actually help you reduce that level of panic and
worry as you’ll start to fear them less. If you learn to stay calm and not to overthink when
you have an anxiety attack, you’ll actually start coping with your attacks better.
Stopping Your Anxiety Altogether
Simply learning to cope with anxiety means not to “deal with.” It’s not quite the same thing
as a treatment. Understanding why we have overwhelming levels of anxiety and what
triggers it is the first step to curing it.